Thank you to the Parents who volunteered supplies and labor or donated items to the child care back yard clean up. It was extremely appreciated.
TOP TEN LIST
Although there are many variations of “right” ways to parent and your personal family values should be your guide, there are some basic principles that underlie good parenting. With the complexion of our media-driven culture, it is particularly important for families to embrace these foundational principles. In my book How to Parent So Children Will Learn I emphasize the supportive concepts that can help parents raise happy, resilient, and achieving children. I’ve developed a Top Ten List to summarize these essential principles to assist parents. My book is now in its third edition and has been awarded a National Best Book Award by USA Book News in the Parenting and Family category. I know you’ll find it helpful for raising your families.
1. Praise moderately to avoid pressure; postpone superpraise.
Praise conveys your values to your children and sets expectations for them. Lack of praise conveys the message that you don’t believe in them. Reasonable praise, like good thinker, hard worker, smart, creative, strong, kind, and sensitive, sets high but reasonable expectations that are within your children’s reach. Words like perfect, the best, natural athlete, most beautiful, and brilliant can set impossible expectations. Children internalize those expectations, and the expectations become pressures when children find they can’t achieve those high, impossible goals.
2. Don’t discuss children’s problem behaviors within their earshot (referential speaking).
Discussion about children also sets expectations for them. If they hear you talking to grandparents and friends about how jealous or mean they are, if you refer to them as little devils or ADHD kids, if they’re constantly described as shy or fearful, they assume you’re telling the truth and believe they can’t control these problem behaviors.
3. Take charge; don’t overempower your children.
Your children require leadership and limits to feel secure. Envision the letter V. When children are small, they’re at the base of the V with few choices, little freedom, and power, matched with few responsibilities that go with their small size. As they mature, give them more choices, more freedom, and increased power, paired with more responsibilities. Children will feel trusted as they are only gradually empowered. If you reverse that V like this–Λ –and children are given too much power, too many early choices, and too much freedom, they are overempowered before they are ready to make responsible decisions.
These children feel as if you’re taking away their freedom when you set reasonable limits. They expect to be treated as adults before they’re ready. In my research on over 5,000 middle-grade students, many children believed they should have equal decision-making power as their parents. In adolescence, the ordinary limits cause overempowered children to become angry, depressed, and rebellious because they feel powerless compared to the power they experienced too early.
4. Build resiliency; don’t rescue your child from reality.
Although children need protection, overprotection encourages dependency and oversensitivity. The V of Love must expand its limits as children mature. You can be kind without being overly sympathetic. You can do for children without overdoing. Your children will need to learn to recover from losses and failures, without being rescued from reality. Developing resiliency will permit them to triumph over obstacles.
5. Stay united, be willing to compromise, and say good things about your child’s other parent.
Leaders in a family that lead in two opposite directions confuse children. Children will not respect parents who show no respect for each other. Describing your child’s other parent as an “ogre” or “dummy” may make you feel like a good and understanding parent temporarily, but sabotaging another parent, or grandparent, will backfire, and your child will no longer respect either of you. This is especially hard after divorce, but it’s even more important in divided families. Parents and grandparents being united is important for children.
6. Hold teachers, education, and learning in high regard.
Set your children’s education as first priority. That will become most clear if they hear how much you value learning. Tell them about the best teachers you had and elevate their teachers as well. Set expectations for higher education early so they will assume education does not stop after high school.
7. Be positive about your own work and that of your child’s other parent.
If you arrive home and complain about your work daily, your children will become antiwork kids. They’ll complain about their schoolwork and household chores. If you don’t like your work, attempt to find better work, and remind them that education provides more job choices. Try hard to keep balance of work and family fun in your lives.
8. Be a role model of ethics, activity, and hard work. Locate other good role models for your children.
Your children are watching you. When you “get away with” speeding, keep too much change, or are disrespectful to your parents (their grandparents), they’ll notice. When you’re interesting and energetic they’ll be equally impressed. You can be a good role model without being perfect, but your imperfections are showing. You don’t have to do it all. Introduce your children to friends and potential mentors who also will be positive influences.
9. Enjoy learning experiences with your child.
Too many parents of 20-year-olds have sobbed in my office because they didn’t find time for their children when they were growing up. Make time for learning with your kids and they’ll be learners forever. Enjoy and develop interests together and you’ll not have regrets, only wonderful memories.
10. Keep a separate fun time and adult status without giving your children adult status too soon.
Enjoy adult life without your children. Weekly dates and a few adult vacations a year will keep you excited about life. Give your children something to look forward to. They can watch and wait and do child activities with the family. Kids who get adult privileges too soon have power beyond their maturity.
Did you know there is a Parent's Bill of Rights? click here to read it.
Asian Pacific American History Month - Became a public law on October 28th, 1992. The laws' purpose is to recognize and honor Asian/Pacific Americans for all of their contributions to the United States.
National Bike Month - Learn all about bike and riding safety.
May 1st - May Day - May Day is celebrated all around the world. It has been celebrated since ancient times. One custom of the traditional English May Day involves crowning a May Day queen and dancing around a maypole. Each country celebrates in their own unique way.
May 2nd- Space Day - Space Day is celebrated the first Thursday of May. It became an educational day in 1997. It celebrates the exploration of space.
May 3rd - Be Kind to Animals Week - This is a week long event, May 3rd through May 9th. It educates people on how to care for animals.
May 3rd - Niccolo Machiavelli's Birthday - Niccolo was born on May 3rd, 1469. He was a writer and a Statesman. His biggest achievement is his title, "Father of Modern Political Theory."
May 4th - National Teacher Day - In 1953 a teacher from Arkansas, Mattye White Woodridge, wrote a letter to Eleanor Roosevelt who persuaded Congress to make May 4th National Teacher Day. It is now a week long event.
May 5th - Cinco De Mayo - This day honors the 1862 victory of Mexico over the French soldiers. It is Mexico's version of an Independence Day.
May 8th- Provider Appreciation Day - http://www.providerappreciationday.com/ Honor your child care provider on this date.
May 9th - Mother's Day - The first Mother's Day was celebrated in 1907. A presidential proclamation set the official date for Mother's Day to be celebrated on the second Sunday in May every year. Mother's have a woman named Anna Jarvis to thank.
May 9th - National Police Week - This week is celebrated May 9th through May 15th. To honor all police officers for all the do in keeping the public safe from harm.
May 25th - National Missing Children's Day - On May 25 every year the missing children of the nation are remembered. This day is also to raise awareness about "stranger danger" and to educate children about keeping themselves safe. Please visit the following website if you want to learn more about the children who inspired this day.
May 31st - Memorial Day- Memorial Day is a day of remembrance for all those who lost lives during war times. The first Memorial Day was observed on May 31, 1865.
This schedule is subject to change. There are some dates not filled in yet. Or TBA. In the meantime you can mark your calendars for what is here. Everyone will get their own copy to post at home and office once I finalize everything:
January 1st 2015 New years. CLOSED
February 16th Monday CLOSED Presidents Day
February 27th Friday - CLOSED medical
May 4th Monday Early closure CLOSE AT 4:00 p.m.
May 8th Friday PROVIDER APPRECIATION DAY. (open)
May 25th Monday Memorial day CLOSED
May 27th Early closure: Close at 3:30 p.m. (to attend Granddaughter HS graduation)
June: Parent hooky day TBA….Usually near mid or end of Month.
June 27th Saturday Preschool graduation. At the park. Pot luck and fun. Park TBA.
July 3rd Friday CLOSED – for 4th of July weekend.
Summer Break Week of July 6th - 10th
September 7th t Monday Labor Day CLOSED
October 12th Monday Columbus day CLOSED
October pumpkin Patch field trip TBA All children need a parent or family member to drive them.
Child Care is closed this day for the field trip .
November 11th Wednesday Veterans Day CLOSED
November 25th Wednesday Harvest Luncheon with the kids - 12 noon close after luncheon.
November 26th & 27th Thursday/Friday CLOSED for Thanksgiving Holiday
December 16th. Wednesday- FREE PARENT’S NIGHT OUT. Bring your child’s jammies that day and let your child stay for the evening. Parents get a free night out on us as our way of saying Thank you. Go to dinner, the movies, or Christmas shop without the kiddo’s. 5:30- 10 p.m.
December 18th Friday Holiday Party. We CLOSE at 5 p.m. this day and then meet up at the Round Table Pizza parlor at 6:00 p.m. 10054 Bruceville Rd. Corner of Whitelock and Bruceville. Bring the kids in Jammies…we will do gift exchange, Christmas Story, and hopefully have a surprise visitors. (we are looking for a volunteer to wear our Santa suit and play Santa that night)
WINTER BREAK CLOSING: Monday December 21st through Friday 25th. (1 week)
December 31st New years Eve CLOSED and January 1st CLOSED Thursday/Friday for New Years Eve and New year’s Day. (we are only open Mon/Tues/Wed that week)
check out these links for some great things to do with the kids this month here in Sacramento. Enjoy these activities.
weekend family fun
kids side tracks
96 free things to do